There are Five Steps to Breaking the Self-Sabotage Cycle
Coffee and aspirin, skipped lunches and a drive-thru dinner surely will make the body want to escape through wine at night.
There is no judgment here. I know you’re doing your best to get through the day. But, I’d like to encourage you to see the wisdom of the way of health. Your professional life depends on you to bring your health back to life. It’s easier than you think!
So, how do you know if you’re in a self-sabotaging cycle?
According to Psychology Today, “Behavior is said to be self-sabotaging when it creates problems and interferes with long-standing goals.”
That makes it easy, then, to decide if what you’re doing is self-sabotaging.
Questions to ask:
- Are my food choices interfering with my ability to feel great throughout the day?
- Are putting my own needs last diminishing my effectiveness?
- Is my procrastinating about my health and wellbeing hurting my long-term goals?
If the answer is yes and you do it repeatedly, then you’re in a self-sabotaging cycle.
Why Is the Self-Sabotage Cycle Such a Problem?
Because it’s like the Lay’s potato chip advertising slogan: “Betcha can’t eat just one!”
One potato chip leads to a handful and the next thing you know you’ve eaten the entire bag for dinner.
That’s not so good.
Your success as a busy professional woman lies in healthy habits. Self-sabotaging habits undermine your ability to achieve long-term goals.
How to End the Self-Sabotage Cycle Once and for All
Step One: Become aware of what you’re saying about yourself.
What do you hear yourself saying inside, mumbling to yourself outside, or speaking to others? Is it positive or negative? Are you appreciating or putting yourself down?
Whenever you hear yourself saying something negative replace it with something positive. I have a client who says, “Cancel that!” Find a way to state every thought as a positive. Believe in your value, and choose self-encouraging words and actions.
Step Two: Set your daily intention.
Each morning, look in the mirror and state aloud your intention for the day. Just as you set your GPS with a destination before driving, so, too, must you set your daily destination with a positive intention.
Step Three: Reward yourself.
When you reach your goal, reward yourself. No, not with food. Instead, do something nice for yourself that lifts your spirit.
Why? Because doing so reinforces the desired behavior and stops the self-sabotage cycle.
Step Four: Rinse and repeat.
Notice your talk, replace it with something positive, set your daily intention, and reward yourself when you reach your goal. That’s it.
There’s a phrase, “what gets attention, gets repeated” that works here. Give attention to the positive and repeat it.
Step Five: Self-love.
As you move away from the self-sabotage cycle, you’ll find yourself naturally caring for and take better care of yourself. This is called self-love.
Once the cycle breaks, you’ll find self-love emerging. Self-love is the place where your happiness resides. Where health and wellness reign. It’s a place where you sparkle.
We all get in own way occasionally. Stop the self-sabotage cycle, once and for all, by choosing self-love. These five steps will help you make conscious, purposeful, healthy choices.